Proving someone wrong is often the best part of any accomplishment.
But the truth is, you don’t accomplish something to berate others for doubting you. You need to want success for yourself and only you. Losing weight was the same idea for me.
It took a while to realize the secret is letting go. Life isn’t about being better than others – it’s about pursuing your dreams. If you really let go of what you hate most, you will succeed in life.
For instance, take the hate and abuse I dealt with in the sports world. Abused by coaches, players, and spectators, I thought about how different I would be looked at if I weren’t fat. They still don’t respect me, which is fine because I made it further in the athletic world than any of them did. As much as I want to hate them for mistreating me my whole life, I can’t sink to their level. I needed to let it go.
They won’t change, but I will.
Sadly, people are going to put you down in life for no sensible reason. Some people simply take pride in insulting you. You can choose to let it depress you and drive you insane, but there’s always a choice to just let it go. Never forget that on any day you can wake up, walk out the front door, and your life can change forever. So why waste your time hanging on to something you don’t need?
When I hit the finish line of the marathon, those people who beat the crap out of me and made me contemplate suicide when I weighed 320 pounds didn’t cross my mind at all. I knew what I earned in the process, and that negativity, quite honestly, just isn’t useful. I didn’t lose weight to impress anyone – you shouldn’t ever reach a goal for anyone’s benefit beside your own. Once I let go of the hate, I never looked back.
I know many people deserve hate, and I know hatred of someone can push you really far with changing your life.
Everyone carries a burden.
But, remember that things happen for a reason. I could hate former coaches, former relationships, teammates and anyone who spat in my face instead of helping, but it’s just not worth it.
Let it go, because honestly, you’ll sleep better at night. The second, you chase a dream out of spite, they win. Trust me, you’re better than that. You need to do it for yourself – you’re the one suffering for a dream, not them. I didn’t lose 114 pounds thinking about what all those people did to me. Some people just aren’t worth it. There’s more to one than hanging on to the wrong things. If you really want to reach a goal, and lose weight, don’t spend another minute letting adversity win.
Let it go.
“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch up.”